Tag: Purity

Pure or Boy Crazy: which direction are you headed?

So you know when someone comes to you and asks you something and says, “I’m asking for a ‘FRIEND’…” Well, today I have a question like that for you. How many of your “girlfriends” are on the boy-crazy train? I’m talking about the kind of college girl who tries guys on like a pair of

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Modesty Myth #1: The modesty movement forbids the expression of feminine beauty [VIDEO]

Respect is at the heart of God’s intention for sexual expression. Lean in while I unveil to you one of the best-kept secrets in the Bible: a single word. The Hebrew word for sex. The Old Testament uses the word yada for sex. It means “to know, to be known, to be deeply respected.” God’s

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Does Teaching Purity Contradict God’s Grace? [VIDEO]

“I’m just not seeing the message of grace presented in these purity and modesty movements,” a woman recently wrote to me. “Why did Jesus die on the cross? We are righteous because of Jesus, not because of our works. … I am all about …waiting to have sex until marriage and using common sense in

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Should We Stop Using The Word “Purity”?

Recently I opened my blog to moderate comments on a post titled “Was Mary A Virgin?” Suddenly, I was being accused of “slut-shaming” for using the word virgin. What!? It was the VIRGIN Mary who I was writing about! The comments—including “This is slut shaming… Wrapped up in a pretty package” and “Such dialogue and scrutiny over a woman’s virginity (aka ‘purity’) only

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Free Online Purity Curriculum Available Now!

Roughly forty six percent of high school students will engage in sexual intercourse before they graduate.[i] There is almost no difference in the percentage of students inside the church and those outside the church. Shouldn’t there be? This risky behavior is compounded by the fact that starting to have sex early equals a lot of sexual

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Single Girl, Pick Your Fight! [VIDEO]

Dear Single Girl: You have a battle ahead. To live a life of purity in this world will not be easy. The rhetoric will hurt you. Boys will hurt you. Even friends will turn on you.  You’ll be accused of “repression” and “small-mindedness.” When you defend your virginity, you’ll be called “frigid.” Your sexuality may even be questioned.

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7 Secrets To Purity For Every Teen Girl

I said goodbye to my virginity when I was fifteen. How old were you? If you had it to do over again, would you wait? I would. I knew none of the physical consequences of choosing to have sex early, but I was depressed. I felt like I’d given something precious away and could never

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Good Sex Comes To Those Who Wait!

“Good sex comes to those who wait.” That was last week’s claim by Her•meneutics blogger Courtney Reissig. Only, I should clarify that she ended the sentence with a question mark: “Good sex comes to those who wait?” And then her words decried the efforts of the abstinence and purity movement—my efforts, really—charging that we are guilty

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nonSpeed Dating for Dummies: does he protect your purity?

Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn’t have to be so rushed. It does have to be right. [Bonus material from Get Lost.] Celebs like Ashton Kutcher, Bradley Cooper, Jamie Foxx, Justin Timberlake and more joined forces to collaborate on a campaign to stop men from using girls to mop up their own selfish sexual needs. 

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